Following on from the ‘Dear Dad‘ post, this is an excerpt from my book, In My Room. (Art by Harley Manifold). We’re constantly being bombarded with messages that make us feel ‘less’, ‘not good enough’. Much of which is conveyed through the media, is ingrained in our culture and in ways we’re parented – and later parent. I view this piece of ‘flippy’ statements as a check list of what not to say to kids – to anyone. It hurts and it sticks.
This is fun….stop being silly. Look at me…..stop showing off. I’m so proud of this …..don’t get too big for your boots. I can do what I like….what will people think. I like these clothes…..you can’t go out dressed like that. I like this music….turn that crap down. I’m tired….don’t be so lazy. This feels good…..don’t be so selfish. I did really well…..you can do better than that. I know what I want…..don’t be so fussy. I can try again….you always stuff up. I’m really good at this……who the hell do you think you are. Can I have some more…..don’t be such a pig. I feel sad…..Don’t cry – stop your nonsense. That hurts….don’t be such a sook. When I grow up ….you’ll never amount to anything.
The back of the book has the reverse language….
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(Above) Interview with Bruce Robinson a Perth Doctor and Scientist who heads ‘The Fathering Project’, a University of WA based group helping Fathers be exceptional Dads – check out the website link for a great parenting resource. Article found in The Australian Financial Review 5-6 July 2014.
Being a parent is a really tough gig and being a kid of a parent who struggles in that role is really tough. But there’s hope when someone like Bruce and his Project speaks of and validates that struggle and provides some positive guidance. Please pass this on…..
The initial story went…..She put her hand on her heart while she carefully collected her thoughts.
Her heart was threatening to launch itself right out of her chest. She felt she was losing hold of what was real and what was not. So she took herself aside to a quiet spot with truth firmly in hand, in heart and in book.
FOOTNOTE: She looks almost ready for blast off in those heels, but I have since suggested quiet, considered steps might be a safer way to travel ….
PS: My apology for not posting the Clunk & Jam notes lately, will update soon. In the meantime, pass this on to all fellow followers of their hearts and minders of their truth….
Voice from Charles Schwab on Vimeo.
The story of a boy struggling to find his voice in the world. His determination for change leads him on an exploratory journey to regain his courage and overcome his greatest fear. Below, listen to Singer/Songwriter Megan Washington for a very surprising and hugely inspiring talk about … not going to spoil it – have a look and listen, it’s beautiful. See also her interview on Australian Story on ABC iview here. Pass it on, you can’t help feeling good after this one …..
Been drawing ‘Impossible Girls’ lately because …. they can do the impossible – as we all can if we hold on tight to our self belief. I’m not for a moment suggesting that’s an easy thing to do, but self belief is something we should always be striving to strengthen (and protect). Pass her on ……
Stuck from Charles Schwab on Vimeo.
Found this …..”Charles Schwab and some beloved Vimeo creators explore through a series of short films how leaving can lead to positive change. The results are touching, inspiring, and funny — it’s entertainment that won’t soon leave your memory.” So what are you waiting for? ’Own Your Tomorrow’.
Some troops that might be helpful through the tricky process of change…Army of Ink # 76…..Army of Ink # 71……Army of Ink # 63…..and this lad, Robin Small….and this one……and another. Pass this post on and give others some encouragement to ‘own their tomorrow’….
PS: Army of Ink and Robin Small are available in print form in the Black Dog shop or in the Bookshop/Gallery on my personal website, Browne Ink Studio.