What if being different meant you’d never be alone again ?
Imagine…if those of us who felt different could be strengthened in our difference through the sharing of stories….which wouldn’t mean we’d all become the same ….but we might feel less alone in our difference….
Art by Stormie Mills. Find this in Clunk & Jam book.
On the meaning of destiny …
“It’s a feeling you have that you know something about yourself, that nobody else does. The picture you have in your mind of what you’re about will come true. It’s kind of a thing you kind of have to keep to your own self because it’s a fragile feeling and you put it out there and somebody will kill it. So it’s best to keep that all inside.” (From CBS 60 Minutes interview 19th November). Another musician with hidden talents, Michael Stipe from REM here.
If you want to avoid being manipulated by mass media here’s a brilliant magazine called, ‘New Philosopher‘ (cover in colour green/pink), put out by those who also make the new, ‘Womanhood’ magazine, featured in Blog here. This particular issue is all about the self – helping us to know and feel better about our selves. Art throughout and ad free. Don’t be put off by the title, it’s an easy and insightful read for young folk and those of us who don’t like reading too much at a time. Pass it on….
Warped Selfie .
Excerpt of article from Fernwood Fitness magazine. Art Charles Blackman, ‘Children Playing’ (original in colour).
When does time spent in front of the mirror stop being about preening and start becoming a problem? We look at the devastating impact body dysmorphic disorder can have on our kids and how you can foster a positive environment where appearance isn’t everything. Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) describes a disabling preoccupation with perceived physical flaws. Affecting both men and women, it causes excessive self-consciousness and, while onlookers might see nothing out of the ordinary, sufferers experience extreme anxiety causing them to withdraw from school and social activities for fear people can also see the ‘defects’ they see in the mirror. (Guys suffer from this too – see article here) – and/or continue on…..
While the condition is not a recent phenomenon, several mental healthcare professionals cite the damaging impact the media’s obsession with beauty can have. “One recent development has been social media and its ability to turbocharge the cycle of self-consciousness. Comparison is an essential feature of BDD, and in a digital context where selfies are everywhere it’s easy to compare yourself to other people,” says Dr Buchanan.
According to the UK-based BDD Foundation, each year one in 330 people diagnosed with BDD commit suicide and, while BDD is more strongly associated with obsessive-compulsive disorder and other anxiety-driven conditions, around 50 per cent of sufferers will have experienced an eating disorder at some point.
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Thanks Chloe for recommending this movie with a message. See also….‘Elastic Heart’ from Hunger Games, another movie that captures/questioned the warped direction society could be heading – if left unchallenged; ‘Coming Unstuck’ about the dangers of labels (and putting people in boxes); an independent’Rose # 2‘; ‘Strange Difference‘; poem, ‘If I was made of chocolate‘ ; and ‘The Black Dog Story’.
She forever hoped that no-one would ever find what she spent every waking hour hiding – and hiding from .
Personal footnote: We all have secrets – and secret fears. And sometimes we have ‘leftover’ fears, the ones we experienced long ago and the threat is actually long over but we feel the fear and respond to it like it’s still fresh and real. This ‘ink’ seems to be suggesting an emptying of pockets to free herself from the lingering things that may still confine her – and/or define her in a negative light. For some of us, our greatest task in life is to rewire our minds and the ingrained responses it triggers by challenging those fears – replacing them with new experiences. Think – re-filling your pockets with good stuff. Re-shaping yourself. And each time you have a win (or even fail as the quote in the post below suggests), you get stronger and more confident in doing things you once avoided. Her arrival seems to pose questions like… what’s stopping you making changes in your life? What are you afraid of? What are you hiding? Hiding from? What’s stopping you going places outside of your comfort zone – comfortable rut maybe? ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway” as someone once said. It’s how we grow. Her waffle pants seem to suggest space for the filling – room to move?