Posts tagged in ‘ the BOy’

November 20, 2012 - BOy Pretending

boy pretended

And what if a BOy stops pretending he’s fine?  What if a BOy cries?   Lets out the worry?   Says he’s scared?  Puts his hand up for help?   Why should he be called a sook, a pussy, pansy, poofter, sissy or EMO?   Why do they tell him to pull himself together, keep his chin up, soldier on, tough it out – not to worry because … you’ll be right mate?   Finding words can be hard for a BOy, so is finding his feelings –  showing them even harder.    But if it’s really so hard for a BOy to talk and feel and cry – doesn’t that make the BOy who does –  tougher than all the other BOys? 

So let’s champion for a new age BOy who has learnt that more is lost in war than won and fighting his own battle; conquering his own fears and demons; freeing himself from the silence and pretending will be this greatest victory – and contribution to the world.

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November 1, 2012 - BOy Saw It Coming

boy saw it coming

Sometimes when answers can’t be found – questioning is a good alternative …  like why is a BOy suppose to have all the answers anyway?  Who’s a BOy to turn to when he’s not sure what to do or where to go?  How’s a BOy suppose to live up to all these BIG expectations?   What if a BOy can’t?   Doesn’t want to?   Doesn’t think he can?  Doesn’t believe he’s good enough?   And what if he doesn’t want to be like all the other BOys?   If he doesn’t fit in – then where’s a BOy belong?  And if a BOy can’t stop the trees from falling and the ice from melting- what then?  What if a BOy doesn’t have  answers to these questions – doesn’t that mean he’s not as alone as he thinks he is?

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October 31, 2012 - The New B.r.a.v.e.

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The New Brave .

If it is brave to be tough – is it not also brave to show sensitivity?  If it is brave to fight in anger – is it not also  brave to not fight the sadness?   If it is brave to get on with it – is it not also brave to sit still in it?    If it is brave to confront something – is it not also brave to choose to retreat?   If it is brave to hold emotion back and in – is it not also brave to feel it?   If it is brave to be in the spotlight – is it not also brave to be alone?    

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May 14, 2012 - BOy Little Red Engine

boy little red engine

Footnote:   Remember the story about a little red engine who gets to a big hill and defies all his doubters by struggling on and up puffing out  …. “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can …”    This BOy is one to bring out when faced with a challenge.

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April 18, 2012 - BOy Handshakes

BOy handshakes

Begs a BOy question … Why are bear hugs, group hugs, butt slapping, tears and kisses acceptable (applauded even) on footy fields and in sporting arenas, yet in school yards, work places, and often the homes of growing lads, it’s often viewed as a sign of immaturity, weakness or ‘gayness’ – inviting tags such as ‘Mummy’s BOy’?   A BOy’s rite of passage can be a lonely place.

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March 5, 2012 - BOy Left Home

boy leaving home

BOy culture seems to load lads up – sometimes, with more than BOy can bear.  And if  BOy can’t bear it – saying so isn’t an encouraged option, because BOy is supposed to be tough – right?    Or maybe it’s BOy culture that’s wrong?   Maybe BOy should be valued for his sensitivity, honesty, authenticity, difference and ability to grow and evolve beyond the confines of  BOy stereotyping –  rather than his worth being measured by size, strength, toughness and how much he can do? 

Footnote:  I had a refreshing conversation with a bloke a while back, who talked about his close friend who’d taken his own life.  His honesty was astounding.  He recalled a conversation he’d had with his mates over drinks at the funeral wake.  He said the guys were all saying how they wished their mate had talked to them, told them how bad he was feeling.   And this guy said, “Bullshit!   If he’d told us we’d probably all have called him a ‘pussy’ and told him to toughen up.”   I think that moment of honesty separated the man from the BOys.    And I’d also seen a little five year old BOy cry recently as his Dad clipped him on the shoulder and told him to ‘toughen up’ and not be ‘such a sook’.   Maybe it’s not about BOy being a ‘sook’ – but BOy culture being way too tough?  

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