Comes and Goes .
This condition of mind. It comes. And it goes. And it comes back again. So if I have nothing right now. What do I have? The knowledge that it comes. And it goes. And it comes back again ….
Footnote: There’s something deeply consoling about the notion of endlessness. It’s the opposite of being STUCK. And the understanding that things come and go. And if you replace the ‘condition of mind’ with … good and bad times; anxiety and fear; happiness; sadness, grief, despair; relationships; worries and so on – it is the transient (cyclic) nature of things that provides reassurance for getting through – coming out the other side.
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January 18, 2012 - Dear Me
Dear Me . (Written November, 2011)
There is a book that poses the question … if you could write a letter to your 16 year old self, what would you say? Having experienced bullying, abuse and traumatic life experiences that left me feeling life was too unbearable to continue on, that letter might read something like this …..
You’ll get through this. You’ll survive way beyond things you believed you couldn’t. And there will be many more times when you can’t bear the thought of living another day. Another moment.
But know that it is but a moment. A moment in which you have only this desperate thought and sense of hopelessness. Moments come – and moments pass. Tomorrow may not feel a whole lot better but it can be a starting point – not the end. ‘You Can Do Anything’ video. ‘Tread Carefully In Mind’.
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You’ll need to take some seemingly impossible steps. Every day. Day in. Day out. And you’ll need to keep working towards change and creating a place, a life, you feel more comfortable and less despairing in. Find something that provides a sense of purpose and meaning. And you don’t necessarily have to know exactly where or what that will be. You just need to maintain the drive and determination to find it. Trusting – despite being hurt by trusting before.
And you’ll have some massive spills along the way that will lay you flat for varying lengths of time – but you’ll get up. Eventually. Every time. You’ll get up. You must. And you’ll go another round so you can at the very least, prove to yourself you can. Your weakest point will be to rely on someone else to do this work for you…
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Pay it Forward is a movie about a boy who comes up with a dead simple idea and it takes on a life of its own. Just imagine. You do a favour that really helps someone and tell him or her not to pay it back, but pay it forward to three other people, who in turn, each pay it forward to three more – and on and on into a global outpouring of kindness and decency. Kevin Spacey’s pitch of the assignment to his junior high class goes …
“You’re stuck right here in the 7th grade but not forever because one day you’ll be free. (Class cheers). What if on that day you’re free you haven’t prepared. You’re not ready. And you look around you and you don’t like what the world is. So what if the world is just a big disappointment? Student answers; “We’re screwed”. Unless. Unless you take the things that you don’t like about this world and you flip them upside down, right on their arse.
And you can start that today. This is your assignment. Think of an idea to change our world – and put it into ACTION! What’s wrong? Students answer; “It’s so weird”. “Crazy”. “Hard”. Teacher says; How about possible? It’s possible. The realm of possibility exists where? In each of you. Here (points to head).”
